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The Three Rs of Logical Consequences for Kids

Related If possible, try to connect the consequence with the behavior in question. That’s what makes the consequence “logical.” Reasonable  The consequence should be effective—that is, not too harsh, not too light. If it’s not severe enough, it won’t motivate. If it’s too severe, it will seem unfair and the child may rebel. The goal is to teach responsibility, not ruin a life. Respectful  The objective is not to punish, but to respectfully acknowledge your teen’s ability (and right) to make his or her own decision and live with the consequences. Don’t rescue. Don’t interfere with your child’s choices, but follow through on them firmly and consistently.

Related
If possible, try to connect the consequence with the behavior in question. That’s what makes the consequence “logical.”

Reasonable 
The consequence should be effective—that is, not too harsh, not too light. If it’s not severe enough, it won’t motivate. If it’s too severe, it will seem unfair and the child may rebel. The goal is to teach responsibility, not ruin a life.

Respectful 
The objective is not to punish, but to respectfully acknowledge your teen’s ability (and right) to make his or her own decision and live with the consequences. Don’t rescue. Don’t interfere with your child’s choices, but follow through on them firmly and consistently.