HDC Kids VV

Ideas to Help Your Affirm Your Kids

“Clean your room!” “Grow up!” “Why can’t you be like your sister!” “Where did you get a stupid idea like that?” “I hope you have a kid someday just like you!” “I’m not asking you, I’m telling you!” “What part of no don’t you understand?” “Do you have to go out looking like a slob?” Those are only a few ways we destroy a child’s self-esteem. Why not try substituting phrases like those below—words that encourage and show understanding. Practice them at home on your kids. I love you. How thoughtful. I know you can do it. That’s a good point. You’re terrific. That’s great! It sounds like you’ve given that a lot of thought. Now that’s an interesting way of looking at it. You are really improving. I know you’ll make the right decision. That was a thoughtful thing to do. That’s okay- nobody’s perfect. Since you’re not happy with the situation what do you think you can do to change it? I’m proud of you. Let’s sit down and talk about it. Now that’s really creative. You really are growing up. Way to go! You seem really happy about that. You made the right decision. I’ve noticed that you’ve been trying harder. You handled the situation well. Good thinking! I really appreciate you. That’s a normal feeling that you have. It sounds like you really care about your friends. Thanks for your help. I’m going to trust you a lot more. Will you pray for me? I’m sorry. Will you forgive me? What’s your opinion? It’s easy to make a mistake. What did you learn from it? I understand. I love you.

“Clean your room!”
“Grow up!”
“Why can’t you be like your sister!”
“Where did you get a stupid idea like that?”
“I hope you have a kid someday just like you!”
“I’m not asking you, I’m telling you!”
“What part of no don’t you understand?”
“Do you have to go out looking like a slob?”

Those are only a few ways we destroy a child’s self-esteem.

Why not try substituting phrases like those below—words that encourage and show understanding. Practice them at home on your kids.

  • I love you.
  • How thoughtful.
  • I know you can do it.
  • That’s a good point.
  • You’re terrific.
  • That’s great!
  • It sounds like you’ve given that a lot of thought.
  • Now that’s an interesting way of looking at it.
  • You are really improving.
  • I know you’ll make the right decision.
  • That was a thoughtful thing to do.
  • That’s okay- nobody’s perfect.
  • Since you’re not happy with the situation what do you think you can do to change it?
  • I’m proud of you.
  • Let’s sit down and talk about it.
  • Now that’s really creative.
  • You really are growing up.
  • Way to go!
  • You seem really happy about that.
  • You made the right decision.
  • I’ve noticed that you’ve been trying harder.
  • You handled the situation well.
  • Good thinking!
  • I really appreciate you.
  • That’s a normal feeling that you have.
  • It sounds like you really care about your friends.
  • Thanks for your help.
  • I’m going to trust you a lot more.
  • Will you pray for me?
  • I’m sorry. Will you forgive me?
  • What’s your opinion?
  • It’s easy to make a mistake.
  • What did you learn from it?
  • I understand.
  • I love you.