So what are some other ideas for resisting the gravitational pull many of us feel toward making our children the center of our lives? Here are five strategies that have helped myself and many others:
1. Make God the center of your home and life. You and your children were created to worship something bigger than yourself or each other. When there is a natural refocusing of our wants and needs within the framework of a loving Heavenly Father, our lives realize function so much better.
2. Stop rescuing. Your child needs to feel the consequences of his actions. When you step in to solve every conflict (with siblings, friends or school), you rob him of the learning that comes from dealing with his own shortcomings and mistakes. You don’t want to let him get harmed, but you should be willing to let him get hurt.
3. Say no. Our kids are 20 and 16 now, and I don’t think they’ve ever broken a picture frame or piece of furniture in the house. A few bones…sure. But that was playing sports….