Came across a great post on why dating your spouse is good for the whole family. Here's a clip:
Life these days moves at a pretty hectic pace. And, in all honesty, I don’t think that’s a good thing.
But what concerns me more than just the busyness of life, however, is the fact that so many parents—even Christians—seem to be of the mind that all of this “activity” is somehow actually beneficial.
When Cathy and I were newly married, I was called to serve as Youth Pastor at a church in Southern California. Cathy taught preschool by day and was my primary adult volunteer at night.
The ministry thrived and we considered ourselves truly blessed—or at least I did. But after a year or so in that position, she came to me one night with a very serious look on her face and said, “Jim, we need to talk.”
We headed over to a local restaurant and she poured out her heart to me sharing how frustrated she’d become with our ministry. “Jim,” she said, “I feel abandoned by you. I feel resentment every time the phone rings or you are gone one more night.”
Neither of us had very good role models in our lives in the areas of courtship, intimacy and healthy relationships. And now, my zeal for ministry was putting what I thought was a good marriage in danger. But, Cathy was right. I I had focused too much on ministry and not enough on our marriage. So, we spent the next hour trying to figure out what to do. We came up with three action steps that proved to be lifesavers for our marriage and good boundaries when children showed up in our lives.
1. Non-negotiable date night once each week.
2. Only out three nights each week meaning I would be home more than half the time.
3. Cathy to have veto power over the schedule. Enough said on that one.
Since that evening, Cathy and I haven’t missed many date nights. We know that, even though life can get overly busy and we often get distracted, at least once a week we are going to stop what we are doing and focus on each other.
Does that sound a bit selfish? Perhaps. But, over the years, I’ve learned that doing so has its advantages – not just for Cathy and I as a couple but for our whole family:
1. Dating your spouse keeps you growing romantically. This might sound a bit obvious to some, but the fact is that there is a significant drop in satisfaction with a couple’s romance and sex lives when children arrive on the scene. However, couples with the most positive families make intimacy and romance a priority.
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