HDC Students

Your Kid's Relationships

Your student is about that age where they are going to want to start dating. It’s February, flowers and chocolates are being exchanged by those who are already dating, and your kid probably feels a bit of pressure to partake in the world of dating like all of their peers seem to be doing already. Here is the catch, things in 2015 on the dating landscape look about as different as they possible can from the world that you dated in. Your kids live in a world where they have never had to call someone they were interested in and had their parents pick up the phone, they simply don’t know the fear that you and I had to endure. I want to give you some ideas as to what your teen is expected to do while dating according to society, and I want to give you some talking points as to how to best help combat those societal norms that your kid will think they need to adhere by.

  1. If I am not dating, I am not desirable. Our society loves to point the proverbial finger at those who don’t do what everyone else does, it has been this way forever, it isn’t going to change anytime soon. Often times the tension students feel is when they see their friends in a dating relationship and they feel the need to engage in these relationships also. To this I would be sure to talk to your students about the point of dating; to help figure out who it is you want to spend the rest of your life with.

  2. If I am dating I need to be physical. This is where society gets me angry. There is a huge disconnect between what scripture says regarding sex outside of marriage and what the world says. Are your students a massive blob of walking hormones right now? Yes. Does that mean they need to give their heart to someone that they are not in a committed marriage relationship with? No. Affirm your students in truth. Talk to them about what the bible says about sex; that it is a good thing as long as you are in a heterosexual marriage. Hebrews 13:4 may be a good starting point for your conversation.

  3. You’re my parents, this doesn’t involve you. This fallacy could be the most detrimental to your students dating life. You are the first and sometimes only line of defense to speak truth into your kid’s life. You need to know where they are, you need to know who they are with, and you need to know if any other adults will be around to help keep an eye on things. It isn’t you being rude or distrustful, it is you making sure that your underage minor that you are responsible for is making wise decisions with their body and in their relationships.